How do I tell my kids I have cancer?

Telling your children about your cancer diagnosis can be a challenging conversation.

It's essential to approach it with honesty, love, and reassurance. Here are some suggestions to guide you through this difficult conversation:

Find a quiet, comfortable setting where you won't be interrupted and where your children feel safe and secure. It’s important for them to feel and see your confidence through your voice tone and facial expressions. Spend some time with them and don’t rush it. If you are confident in your treatment, they will be too.

Tailor your explanation to the age and maturity level of each child. Keep your language simple and straightforward, avoiding medical jargon. It may be necessary to talk to each child separately, depending on the age difference.

It's important to be honest with your children about your diagnosis. Let them know that you have an illness called cancer but reassure them that you and the doctors are doing everything possible to treat it. Let them know how hard you will be fighting. Talk to them about the side effects of your treatment so they will know what to expect.

Let your children know that it's okay to ask questions and express their feelings. Be prepared to answer their questions as honestly as possible, even if you don't have all the answers.

Reassure your children that they are loved and cared for, and that you will do everything you can to take care of yourself and to keep them safe. Let your children know that it's okay to feel scared, sad, or angry, and reassure them that you are there to support them through this difficult time. Encourage open communication and let them know that they can come to you with any concerns or emotions they may have at any time.

Consider enlisting the help of a trusted family member, friend, or counselor to support both you and your children during this time.

Remember, children are resilient, and with love, support, and open communication, they can adapt to difficult situations.

Communication. Communication. Communication is key to creating an open atmosphere for the kids.

I hope these tips prove helpful as you or someone you know navigates cancer.

Your Breast Friend,

Edie A. Tolbert

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